I'm catching up! Thanks for this, so interesting. I wonder if those women doing the googling will end up doing the kind of work that helps them ask for what they need and allow other people to be themselves. This might be my biggest takeaway of all the stuff I've worked on through perimenopause, and it extends to family, friends, etc. The anger at others, I've since learned, almost always starts there. Having said that, I've been single for a lot of perimenopause and menopause. I used to feel sorry for myself but I realize a) most women feel alone in peri and b) feeling sorry for yourself is normal and it can be another way to blame other people for things that I am responsible for. But talk to me when I'm dating again lol
I'm not sure how many women googling this topic are doing the kind of work that is so important during peri/menopause, but I know how much it's helped me and my relationships - both personal and professional. It's not easy to look at yourself and take responsibility for all of your actions (and learn why you made those decisions), but that's given me an understanding about myself and a self-confidence that I've never known. 🦋
I agree that hormones play a role, but I'm glad you mention the other pieces, like the mental/emotional load becoming overwhelming. I've been meaning to write about this because I think it's such an important and fascinating piece of the perimenopausal journey. As much as I feel like my estradiol patch has helped with my mood, communication with my family has helped way more. I love that you mention that approach because I think that's the bigger game changer.
The expression on the bride-to-be's face at the top of this post is like, woah! I had not seen this painting before! Doesn't bode well for her in perimenopause. She's already feeling it. Someone should have painted her again at 45! 😂
Oh and I LOVE that scene with Kathy Bates. I remember watching that with my sister when we were kids and thinking she was the coolest! Interesting take on how rage and joy aren't so very far apart sometimes.
We have two verbal signs in our household, for the times when I need some space to reset.
Me: "I'll be at the bottom of the garden"
Him: "I'll go put the kettle on."
Learned from my parents in Yorkshire, it's helped them navigate decades of happy marriage.
That is priceless - thank you for sharing such wisdom! ☺️
I'm catching up! Thanks for this, so interesting. I wonder if those women doing the googling will end up doing the kind of work that helps them ask for what they need and allow other people to be themselves. This might be my biggest takeaway of all the stuff I've worked on through perimenopause, and it extends to family, friends, etc. The anger at others, I've since learned, almost always starts there. Having said that, I've been single for a lot of perimenopause and menopause. I used to feel sorry for myself but I realize a) most women feel alone in peri and b) feeling sorry for yourself is normal and it can be another way to blame other people for things that I am responsible for. But talk to me when I'm dating again lol
I'm not sure how many women googling this topic are doing the kind of work that is so important during peri/menopause, but I know how much it's helped me and my relationships - both personal and professional. It's not easy to look at yourself and take responsibility for all of your actions (and learn why you made those decisions), but that's given me an understanding about myself and a self-confidence that I've never known. 🦋
Let's talk when you're dating again, lol! 😍
I found when other friends and I were going through it--these little cards helped: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1199160051/funny-everyone-can-go-fck-off-not-you?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=card+for+menopause&ref=sr_gallery-5-27&content_source=2a00b63d97e78c6abd9056772cb3089395abb31d%253A1199160051&organic_search_click=1&logging_key=8359efcac6f97fbd9be3fce85a81ce074e44ef43%3A1199160051
Those are adorable and funny - thank you for sharing! ❤️
I agree that hormones play a role, but I'm glad you mention the other pieces, like the mental/emotional load becoming overwhelming. I've been meaning to write about this because I think it's such an important and fascinating piece of the perimenopausal journey. As much as I feel like my estradiol patch has helped with my mood, communication with my family has helped way more. I love that you mention that approach because I think that's the bigger game changer.
The expression on the bride-to-be's face at the top of this post is like, woah! I had not seen this painting before! Doesn't bode well for her in perimenopause. She's already feeling it. Someone should have painted her again at 45! 😂
Oh and I LOVE that scene with Kathy Bates. I remember watching that with my sister when we were kids and thinking she was the coolest! Interesting take on how rage and joy aren't so very far apart sometimes.